After going through my own weight loss journey, I realized the fitness industry was severely lacking the kind of trainer I needed and wanted – someone who was educated on fitness, motivating to keep me coming back for more and just as excited as I was when I started seeing results.
You see, time after time, I went to a gym or met with a trainer that always wanted to push his own goals on me and then brushed me off when I said that I wanted to do something else. I also ended up with a knee injury requiring surgery because I had damaged it so much during our training sessions from being told that it was “weak” and I needed to lift heavier. Quite the contrary actually – the knee was so damaged, I needed to go lighter.
I’ve had trainers that didn’t pay attention to me the whole session because they had so many other people training at the same time. I’ve had trainers that took me to Chipotle after our workout sessions. I’ve had trainers that didn’t listen to me when I said something hurt or didn’t feel right. I’ve had trainers that wanted me try unsafe moves or exercises to “sculpt” me.
I opened my own business to be the complete opposite of everything horrible I saw while I was losing the weight myself.
You see I’ve learned over the past 4 years, people want to feel like they belong somewhere. They want to feel a bond with their trainer and the environment. Losing weight is an intimate process. Not everyone wants you to prod them, take pictures of them and feel their sweaty bodies during measurements. They don’t want to feel like a scolded child if they go out for drinks one night and have a life. While I certainly believe there are people out there that are hardcore and want their trainers to yell at them and force them to do crazy stuff, there is a larger group of people who want to be nurtured towards their results. Trainers that push their clients to do fad diets, crazy weight loss plans, extreme cardio or other unsafe weight loss mechanisms will see results very quickly. However, that will soon fade and those clients will be binge eating at a food truck sooner than you can say “grilled chicken.”
Your goals are not my goals. Your goals drive the results of the training sessions. It is not your trainers job to force goals upon you during or after your sessions. Results are a direct response to your goals.
Which is why this post is completely relevant to those of you seeking fitness services while having auto-immune diseases like fibromyalgia, celiac disease, arthritis, endometriosis and the rest of the lovely things we all struggle with along with celiac.
It is essential for us to find a facility with a great reputation for being caring, supportive, encouraging AND results oriented.
You should NEVER feel bad, awkward or uncomfortable talking to your trainer about any pain, physical struggles and emotional struggles. This is an essential component to our health and wellbeing. If the only thing we can do is show up to the session and try our best, than that is what should be acceptable. You are paying THEM to help you get to your goals. Don’t let them treat you poorly. I’m not saying they shouldn’t give you a push or challenge you, but they need to understand there is a limit. I would never want anyone leaving my facility to go home and cry because of me!
Last year I struggled tremendously with my own fitness program and I know how hard it is to get out of bed when you are exhausted and in pain. All it takes is a gluten incident, lactose incident or some other weird food thing to make me ill forcing me to stay at home than go to the gym. A migraine can off shoot 3 days for me sometimes. The cramping from the endometriosis didn’t get better when I worked out.
We need more trainers in the world that are understanding and caring to their clients individual needs. We need more trainers that want to learn about our conditions and help motivate us to keep going even when we would rather lay on the couch and watch tv. I can tell you someone who tells me I’m lazy or a wimp will not motivate me what so ever.
This industry is so quick to say you aren’t trying hard enough or you’re lying about your diet when weight loss goals aren’t met. No one thinks that you could have a hormone problem causing you to retain the weight. No one thinks that maybe you are struggling with water retention from a health condition preventing weight loss. No one thinks that those pills you are taking for XYZ could be adding pounds to the scale and not your eating habits or work ethic in the gym.
At Bexa Body Fitness, we focus on our clients 150% – their goals are our goals. We understand that not everyone is looking for a tremendous weight loss story or wanting to run a marathon. There are lots of people out there that are just trying to improve their quality of life, not win a body building competition. We need to educate trainers on our diseases and start training them to have more coping and coaching skills to go right along with their awesome motivational and training skills.
I realize that my life experiences have put me in the position to intimately know the emotions and physical distress but it’s unfortunate to see so many people struggling with seemingly nowhere to turn. I’m ready to help educating this industry to the best of my ability, hoping to help so many more in the future.